The words he sent at 2am. The apology that came before the next lie. The phrase that made you question your own memory. We are collecting them — and putting them in print.
This is Book One of a five-book series that documents, in the words that were actually used, the language patterns of narcissistic relationships — and hands survivors the pen.
Every entry in this collection is real: a text message, a voice note, a phrase repeated so often it started to feel true. Book One focuses on the language of the beginning and the unraveling — love bombing, control, cheating denial, gaslighting, financial abuse, manipulation, blame-shifting, double speaking, over-talking, and emotional control.
Three hundred women will be published in this volume. Each story stands alone. Together, they form a national record of a pattern millions of women recognize the moment they read it.
Not the whole relationship — the exact words. The ones you can still recite. The ones that trained you to stay, to doubt yourself, or to apologize for something that wasn't yours to carry.
The overwhelming affection, the “soulmate” language, the pace that felt like destiny — and was actually a strategy.
“That never happened.” “You're too sensitive.” The phrases used to rewrite your own memory back to you.
Financial restriction, monitored phones, the slow narrowing of who you were allowed to see and become.
“You made me do this.” The reversal that turned every conflict into your fault, every apology into your job.
Being talked over, talked around, and talked out of your own conclusion — every single time.
The silent treatment. The sudden warmth. The whiplash that kept you guessing what version of him would show up.
Any length of connection counts — six weeks or sixteen years.
Screenshots aren't required. What was said matters more than proof it was said.
Full name, first name, pen name, or fully anonymous. You decide.
This book exists so the next woman reads it and thinks, “that's exactly what he said to me.”
Keep your written submission to roughly one paragraph. Brevity is welcome; clarity is what we're after.
How long you were connected to this person — dating, engaged, married, or otherwise involved.
What type of abuse or manipulation you experienced — named plainly, in your own words.
One or two text messages, phrases, or voice notes that were used to trigger, love bomb, control, or confuse you — quoted as closely as you can recall.
Some women want their name attached to their story — as a full name or first name only.
If safety is a concern, your story can appear with no name at all.
This project is the first installment in a five-book series documenting the real language of narcissistic relationships. Each volume will focus on a different chapter of the pattern.
Beyond publication, we're building a way for contributors to help carry this project into the world — and be recognized for it. The structure, including any residual income for ambassadors, is still being finalized and will be shared with all 300 contributors before the book releases.
If you'd like to be first to know when this opens, indicate your interest on the submission form.
Take your time. Nothing here is rushed, and nothing is required beyond what feels safe to share.